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Staying Strong When Falsely Accused

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Many lives have been destroyed by lies and rumors. And even when you are completely innocent of the accusations lodged against you, a considerable amount of damage can be done to both your reputation and your emotional stability. The good news is that not only can you survive after false accusations are lodged against you, but you can also thrive.

Own Your Truth

The first key to surviving false accusations is not losing sight of the truth. When rumor mongers attack with falsehoods against you, it is natural to feel negative emotions like doubt and guilt despite the fact you are innocent. Take the time to remind yourself that you are a good person and not the individual someone is trying to paint you to be. It is important to remember that the first person you have to repair your reputation with is yourself. The best way to do this is to stand strong in the truth. As Propel Women suggests, when such accusations arise, you should respond boldly with action and confidence. 

Maintain Your Innocence

Once you have been completely honest with yourself regarding the truth of the allegations against you, never compromise your position. Not everyone will believe you and this can feel discouraging at times. As Schnipper Law says, our country’s laws are such that even criminals are supposed to be assumed innocent until proven guilty, but in practice, it is easy to feel that the exact opposite is true. However, defending yourself with the truth will make you feel better and help you see more clearly. You’ll be able to better tell who around you has your best interests at heart and who might betray you for a tidbit of tasty gossip.

Limit Your Reaction

You will only find another full-time job for yourself if you focus your efforts on mounting a defense against false accusations. With each new mouth that repeats a rumor, a new wrinkle or twist will be added. Your life will be fully consumed with these rumors if you try to address each update to the false accusations lodged against you and respond with strong emotions. As the Scientific American suggests, you should try to keep emotions out of the exchange and listen to the accuser carefully and calmly.

Know Which Opinions Are Important

Do not waste time trying to change the minds of people who play no significant role in your life in the first place. Any attempts to repair the harm that was done to your reputation as a result of false rumors should begin with your inner circle. Make sure the family, neighbors, and friends who are important to your life know the truth about the false accusations made against you. Once the people you matter to the most know the truth from your perspective, they will be the only advocates you will ever need.

There is no way to erase the pain that can be caused by false accusations. This is true no matter how unfair or untrue these accusations might be. But what you can do is minimize the negative effects these accusations have on your life. Do not spend unnecessary time dwelling on the negative emotions you feel as a result of being the target of lies and rumors. Instead, take action to reclaim your life and thrive following the false allegations.

2 Comments

  1. Diamond on October 16, 2019 at 2:48 pm

    This blog post hit home because not long ago my cousin/ex-roommate falsely accused me of things and betrayed my trust and our relationship. I stayed strong & did not try to coerce people to believe my side of the story. My mother always taught me: “it’s not what they call you, it’s what you answer to!” I know I am who God says I am & my character will speak far more value than any convincing words.

    • Belkis Clarke on November 15, 2019 at 9:40 am

      It is often tough not defending ourselves. Sometimes, it is a better road to take. I am applauding you for standing firm and knowing who you are. You are so correct. Your consistency of character is your card of triumph!

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